Free relationship assessment
Conflict Style Test
Map how you tend to respond when arguments begin, how the pattern between you develops, and where disagreements become stuck. Your complete personalized report is free.
Before you begin
Answer for your usual patterns.
Answer for how disagreements have actually unfolded over the past few months, not how you would like them to go.
For reflection and education, not diagnosis or treatment.
Understand the loop
Why do couples have the same fight?
Protective moves can become reciprocal triggers. One person presses, the other pulls away, and each response makes the next one more likely.
Read the conflict styles guideBefore you begin
Conflict Style Test questions
What is a conflict style?
A conflict style is a characteristic way of responding when disagreement starts, such as working the problem, escalating, withdrawing, or giving in to end tension.
What is the pursue-withdraw cycle?
It is a relationship pattern in which one partner pushes to engage with a problem while the other pulls away, and each response intensifies the other.
Is a conflict style a diagnosis?
No. This is a self-reflection tool for insight and education, not a clinical assessment or diagnosis.
What is included in the free Conflict Style report?
The complete report includes all nine scores, a personalized reading of the conflict sequence you describe, cross-pattern dynamics, practical experiments, communication scripts, and your written starting evidence.
Does the report decide who is to blame?
No. It separates observable events, interpretations, and responses so you can test a recurring sequence without claiming to know either person's motives.
What happens if a conversation may not feel safe?
The report avoids recommending confrontation or joint communication and instead keeps the next steps private, individually controlled, and focused on appropriate support.